Be someone I want to see
Someone I want
to see...
She was
sitting in the pavilion sipping her tea. Yasemin entered through the green iron
gate covered by the trees. She couldn't
believe her eyes. "Is that yellow?" she nudged the person next to
her. "Uh-huh! My eyes are bleeding!" The two friends started
giggling. "I couldn't wear it even if they paid me for it," she
thought to herself. "Oh my gosh, don't you think about what the world will
say? Well done, she dressed the way she wanted to. She doesn't really mind what
people say. But, dear, everything has a proper look, it's not nice at
all!"
When Melis
said that her friend's outfit "didn't suit her at all", what she was
actually saying was this: "If I don't wear it, she shouldn't wear it
either. Everybody should be like me, the way I perceive and convey the world.
The one who is different, the one who thinks differently should not
exist."
How many times
people do this unconsciously?
We try to setgoals for others instead of them. Thinking that we are concerned about their
well-being... We think and decide on behalf of someone else's life while
ignoring our own.
"Dress
like me, talk like me, love like me. Buy like me, sell like me, live like me.
Behave the way I want you to behave. Go to the school I want, do the profession
I want"...
-I've planned
a vacation and we are leaving tomorrow. No gratitude?
-I invited
your cousins for dinner tonight. No favors for you either.
-Your carpets
are dirty. I know a company. I'll call them. They'll get all the stains out.
Come on, you're so lucky the doctor came to you.
-Oh dear,
you're so quiet! That's why. If you talk, everything will be solved.
-His visual
skills are very good, but if you want your child to go to university, make him
choose to study mathematics! Otherwise, he won't be able to find a job.
-You don't know how to dress. Let's go out on the weekend and buy you some new clothes."
Be the you I
want you to be!
"Look at
life the way I see it, feel the way I feel. If you love, love like me. Look at
it the way I look at it. Use the words I want when you talk. Make me feel
it."
But that's not
me! It's you and you have your own desires in life.
If only people
could think a little...
Not everyone
has the same desires, the same reasons for desiring and the same goals. Who is
this person, what does he really want? Is he asking me questions? Does he
really need my help?
The
Experiential Design Teaching says "If there is a question, there is an
answer."
Does he want
the solution I have found for him or the goal I have set for him? Is he happy,
sad, joyful? Where is his curiosity, interest, concentration? Why do we want to
make decisions for someone else? Does it feel good to play a leading role in
someone else's life? Do we think we are perfect? It is easy to set goals andgive advice to others. It can be done
easily without understanding or thinking. It is difficult to set goals for own
life.
One must first know and understand people. Understanding people and their needs leads to getting to know them better. Thus, one can give the right direction. And of course, they should not recommend goodness to other lives and forget themselves. In order to have the wisdom to give the right direction, one must first be the director of one's own life. When one is the leading role in his own life, he is then useful as a supporting role in the lives of others.
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Experiential Design Teaching is a science of reality that shapes the future with past experiences. It teaches the methods that individuals need to solve their problems and reach their goals.
It offers strategies to people who want to be happy and successful with the programs "Who is Who", "Mastery in Relationship" and "Success Psychology".
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“What can "one" person matter among billions of people?
Ask that “one” person for the answer!”
Yahya Hamurcu
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