WAITING

  

I waited for years....

I waited for my parents to buy me what I wanted, to fulfill my dreams.

I waited for my teachers to say "Well done" to me, to praise me in front of the class.

  

I waited...

I waited for my friends to celebrate my birthday, to buy me gifts.

I waited for my boss topromote me, to give me a raise. 

 

I waited...

I waited for my husband to say "I love you!" and buy me that diamond ring I wanted.

I waited for my father to start a business with me...

I waited for my brother to teach me how to drive.

  

I waited...

I waited for my mother-in-law to be pleased with me, to love me like a daughter.

  

I waited...

I waited so that my children would obey me and not upset me...

I waited for my neighbor to call me and invite me to tea.

  

I waited for them to love me…

 

I waited for years.

 

But was I worthy of their love?

Why should they love me? What was there to like about me?

I never looked back at myself.

Where was I, the main protagonist of my life, in all this?

How much had I expected in this life! How much did I expect from people?

Were all my expectations only my wishes?

Then what was the point of waiting for someone else?

If I didn't take action, would there be an end to all this waiting?

 

I waited... And I blamed...

I blamed my parents for not providing me what I wanted,

I blamed my teacher for not praising me,

I blamed my friends who forgot my birthday,

My boss for not giving me a raise,

My wife for not showing me affection,

I blamed everyone for not being what I expected them to be, for not behaving as I expected.

  

I didn't know...

I thought waiting was easier than doing...

I didn't know that waiting is harder than taking action.

That waiting was more tiring than taking a step.

I didn't know waiting was more exhausting than making an effort.

Waiting was dreaming invain for something that may never happen....

I didn't know...

 

When I fell and I was alone...

No one came to my rescue...

When I realized I was getting nowhere,

I saw that I couldn't put a stake in the ground...

That's when I realized...

  

Why did I expect from others but not from myself?

Why did I want to be the gatherer when I could be the fertilizer?

Why did I expect to be watered when I could be a stream?

Why did I expect people to smile at me when I could have been the cause of their smile?

Why did I cry over an obstacle when I could have moved it out of the way?

Why did I sit in the dark when I could have opened the curtain?

Why did I complain when I should have been looking for solutions?

Why did I consume when I should have been producing?

Why did I choose to be ruled when I should have been the ruler of my life?

  

Now I wish others knew too:

That those who strive for what they want, are strengthened and honored… Not the ones who wait…

That those who act, are successful and happy… Not the ones who wait…

Let them know to choose to act, not to wait.

 

Yes, it's hard at first, maybe exhausting sometimes.

But the ending is beautiful, enjoyable and filling...

 

Experiential Design Teaching is a science of reality that shapes the future with past experiences. It teaches the methods that individuals need to solve their problems and reach their goals. 

It offers strategies to people who want to be happy and successful with the programs "Who is Who", "Mastery in Relationship" and "Success Psychology". 

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“What can "one" person matter among billions of people?

Ask that “one” person for the answer!”

 

Yahya Hamurcu